Posts by Christina McGhee
My Ex is a slob and it’s driving me crazy
COPARENTING AFTER DIVORCE AND DEALING WITH DIFFERENCES INVOLVES KNOWING WHEN TO HOLD FIRM AND WHEN TO STOP SWEATING THE SMALL STUFF. If you search the web looking for information on coparenting, chances are you’ll find quite a bit of chatter about how to manage big-ticket items. How do you break the news to your kids?…
Read MoreThe Conflict Connection: Figuring Out What Makes Your Difficult Co-parent Tick
Joe was at his wits end. Ever since his divorce he tried to do everything he could think of to get along with his co-parent, Maria. It seemed like no matter how hard he tried nothing worked. While they would go through periods where things were fine, it usually didn’t last for long. Eventually Maria…
Read MoreWill you make difference for kids of divorce?
It’s not often that I ask for help but this is so incredibly important that I felt moved to reach out in a very big way. Just about anyone who has ever met me knows I am absolutely passionate about helping separated and divorced parents raise happy, confident and successful kids. Over the years,…
Read MoreGet back to calm and carry on: helping kids transition between Mom’s house and Dad’s house
As parents, we often glide through a multitude of changes without so much as batting an eye. After all, it comes with the territory. Lauren wakes up with a fever, so you adjust your schedule, make a couple of calls and work from home that day. Evan surprises you with a notice about baseball practice…
Read MoreI don’t want to!!! What to do when kids have a meltdown over seeing or talking to the other parent.
Your stomach starts knotting up and a sense of dread washes over you. You wonder to yourself, “How did it get to be that time again so soon?” Holding your breath, you enter the room desperately hoping that this time you can forego the whining, pleading, and fussing. “Here we go’” you think to yourself.…
Read MoreBypassing Battles with Your Co-Parent Over Parenting Styles
If your repeated requests to “nix the junk” are falling on deaf ears, it’s time to consider a new coparenting approach. From what time Jacob should go to bed to whether or not Haley should be allowed to go to a concert with her friends. What one parent sees as a perfectly acceptable parenting choice…
Read MoreLittle things matter: supporting the value of family after divorce
Supporting the value of family after divorce. “It’s not always the big things we do for our children that make the most difference. Sometimes it’s the subtle things we do over time that reflect integrity in our children’s eyes.” My husband is an amazing Dad. So when Father’s Day rolls around I usually get just…
Read MoreHow do you handle a Co-Parent that isn’t consistently involved?
Q – My co-parent was never really involved with the kids when we were married. Now that we’re divorced he’s even less involved. Usually he shows up for “fun” events but doesn’t make an effort to exercise his “visitation” with the children consistently. I’m worried about how this is affecting them. Is it my responsibility…
Read MoreWhat If I Am Really Bitter And Angry At My Co-Parent?
Q – What if I am really bitter and angry at my co-parent? I know I need to get over it but I just don’t know where to start. A – It’s been said that hanging on to bitterness and resentment is like drinking poison and waiting for the other person to die. Keep in…
Read MoreDivorcing verbally abusive spouse. How do I talk about this with my child without saying Dad is a bad person?
Q – I am divorcing because my husband is verbally abusive and on occasion has become physical. I want to know the PERFECT way to tell my daughter WHY we are getting divorced without saying he is a bad person. I want to make sure she knows that the way he treats us is not…
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