Divorce
How to stay resilient when life gets tough
I hope that you and yours have managed to stay safe and healthy over the past couple of months. For some of you, it’s been a while since you’ve heard from me. I thought you should know why. I don’t know one single person whose life hasn’t been impacted by the multitude of challenges this…
Read MoreOne Mindset Shift That Could Change How Divorce Affects Your Children
Over the past week, how many emails have you gotten so far that read something like this…“Welcome to a brand-New Year and a brand-newyou! ,” or “OMG, it’s 20xx!!! Happy Freaking New Year!! At the start of every year, my inbox is filled with quite a few of these. My guess is yours is too.…
Read MoreOne Coparenting Mistake You Should Avoid This Holiday Season
HANDLING HOLIDAYS AFTER DIVORCE AS COPARENTS CAN BE TRICKY. The holidays are here. Although it’s meant to be a warm and fuzzy time of year when goodwill prevails, sadly for many coparents, the reason for the season transforms into a vicious game of “one-upping.” If “one-upping” isn’t part of your day to day vocabulary, it…
Read MoreWhy co-parents should stop using the words visit, visitation, and custody.
ARE YOU GUILTY OF USING THIS FIVE-LETTER WORD WITH YOUR KIDS? Ever have a word that as makes you cringe every single time you hear it? Yeah, me too. (Actually, TBH, I have several but let’s not go there…) Recently during one of my coaching calls, a divorced co-parent I was working with casually dropped…
Read MoreHow Co-Parents Dealing with Divorce or Separation Can Stop Being Miserable During the Holidays
“Pain in life is inevitable. Suffering is optional… even during the holidays.” A couple of years ago, here at the McGhee household, we were having a pretty dismal December… TBH, the whole Christmas thing was looking awfully darn bleak. See… around that time, I was working away on a BRAND NEW project and was deep…
Read MoreHow To Deal With A Difficult Co-Parent Dedicated To Divorce Drama
IS YOUR EX NASTY ONE DAY AND NICE THE NEXT? Sara was hanging on by a thread. Coparenting with her Ex, Anthony, was incredibly draining, unpredictable and filled with drama. One day he would be rude and standoffish in front of the boys. Then the very next day, he’d act like nothing ever happened and…
Read MoreWhat every parent needs to know about helping kids cope with divorce
7 minute read When I coach parents about how to help their children cope with divorce, one of the first questions they often ask is “What do I say?” or “How can I talk about this?” And it’s not just that first big talk parents are losing sleepover. There are an endless number of situations…
Read More7 Ways You Might Be a KickAss CoParent and Not Even Know It.
Since Gwyneth Paltrow and Chris Martin put “conscious uncoupling” into the limelight a few years ago, the face of coparenting has started to shift. As a society, we seem to be embracing a new way forward and lots of coparents (some famous, some not) are leading the charge. While I am a huge fan of…
Read MoreHandling Holiday Hassles With An Ex Who Hates You
Heather felt that familiar sense of dread. December was always the worst. Although she and Brian had been divorced for over three years, the holidays continued to be complicated and miserable. Despite her best efforts to keep things friendly, there was zero flexibility. If Molly or Jack had holiday parties or special events, Brian would…
Read MoreEasing Back and Forth Stress for Kids After Divorce
All the things your kids needed before the divorce, they will continue to need after you split up. How those needs get met, however, can be a real challenge when parents have different parenting styles, household structure, and rules. While it helps when parents can be on the same page about everyday routines, discipline, and…
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