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First Steps: Handling initial changes

“How do we do this in a way that supports our children and reassures them that we are going to be okay?” Children need Time to adjust to the idea that their family is changing. To be prepared for significant changes (i.e. a parent moving, how time is spent between households etc.) Consistent ongoing contact…

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Finding common ground: Putting your children first

“Although our relationship has changed, our children’s needs have not. How will we be successful parents?” Children need Structure and consistency in their day-to-day lives. To be shielded from adult feelings, decisions and issues. Ability to love each parent without feeling guilty or disloyal. The opportunity to enjoy special occasions, accomplishment and events without being…

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Creating a two-home concept

“Regardless of how time is spent, what can we do to help our children feel a sense of belonging in each home?”   Children need To be a connected and active part of each household. For their opinions and feeling to be considered about how time is spent yet parents remain decision makers. To know…

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Telling others about your divorce

“For the sake of our children, how do we talk about this change with our families and friends in a way that preserves dignity and respect ?”   Children need To maintain a strong and positive connection to both parents and extended family members. The ability to feel proud of both parts of their families.…

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Managing differences

“ Given that divorce is a life long process, how will we work out what’s best for our children now and in the future.” Children need Protection from conflict and the consequences of disagreements. Flexible arrangements that support an active and healthy relationship with each parent. Ongoing opportunities to thrive and be successful. The ability…

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Telling Children – What do you say?

“How can we tell our children about our decision while safeguarding our individual relationships and  minimizing tension?” What and how children are told about your decision to separate or divorce is critical. Not only will it shape how your children experience your separation but it will also set the stage for future your relationship as…

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When children get angry about divorce

Anger and sadness are usually the two most significant feelings children struggle with when parents choose to go their separate ways. While neither falls into the easy to deal with category, usually finding healthy ways to help children manage anger is a real challenge for parents. To offer some insight into what happens for children,…

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