Co-Parenting Tips
Easing Back and Forth Stress for Kids After Divorce
All the things your kids needed before the divorce, they will continue to need after you split up. How those needs get met, however, can be a real challenge when parents have different parenting styles, household structure, and rules. While it helps when parents can be on the same page about everyday routines, discipline, and…
Read MoreKeeping Kids Out of the Middle When Parents Divorce
Every day we tell our kids to stop. Stop arguing, stop being loud, stop touching each other… you know the drill. Just stop. And we expect them to do it. When parent split up kids have their own list of “stops” for us too. Stop fighting, stop being angry, stop saying mean things about each…
Read More6 Things Every Divorced Parent Should "Stop Doing"
Dear Kids, I’ve been thinking about how life has changed for you. There are so many things about our divorce that I wish I could fix or make less painful for you but I can’t. I hate that. You may not know this but I spend a lot of time trying to figure out what…
Read MoreGift Giving Tips for Divorced Parents
Molly used to love Christmas but now she can’t wait for it to be over. Ever since her parents split, the holidays have turned into a gift-giving battleground. Now during the holidays all her parents seem to care about is how they can outdo each other. While getting nice gifts initially was pretty cool, it…
Read More8 Things Adult Children of Divorce Desperately Want You to Know
Dear parents with older children, We realize how easy it might be to assume that your choice to divorce won’t really affect us. After all, we’re older now and those days of hands on parenting are long gone. As young adults, you may think we can handle more or rationalize your situation maybe even put…
Read MoreCoparenting and Discipline Handovers: Who Gets To Call The Shots?
Kids act up. Testing limits is just part of the package. Deciding what to do about your child’s momentary lapses in judgement is one of the challenges of being a parent. It gets even harder when you’ve laid down the law only to realize it’s Friday afternoon and it’s Dad’s weekend. While it would be…
Read MoreI don’t want to!!! What to do when kids have a meltdown over seeing or talking to the other parent.
Your stomach starts knotting up and a sense of dread washes over you. You wonder to yourself, “How did it get to be that time again so soon?” Holding your breath, you enter the room desperately hoping that this time you can forego the whining, pleading and fussing. Here we go. You tell the kids…
Read MoreHow do you decide who should have primary custody of the children?
Q – What’s the best way to decide who should have primary custody of the children? A – Although your marriage relationship may have ended, your roles as Mom and Dad last a lifetime. Concepts like primary or sole custody tend to undermine healthy parent child relationships because they perpetuate the idea that parents no…
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