Posts by Christina McGhee
Tips for managing summer schedules
To help kids enjoy their time with each parent, here are some tips for making summers successful for everyone. Help kids have a good time Do your best to help build kid’s excitement about their summer getaway with the other parent. Spend time talking it up, making a summer calendar or maybe brainstorming ideas about…
Read MoreDreading first summer without my kids – what do I do?
If this is your first summer, here are a few tips to help you move past the dread. Use time away from your children to recharge Unfortunately too many parents treat kid free time more like a dirty little secret than an opportunity to recharge. If you haven’t already, do yourself a favor and bypass…
Read MoreArranging time between parents – Where do you start?
Figuring out how to take care of children after you separate is perhaps one of the most stressful aspects of divorce. However, when decisions about your children’s future get handed over to the legal system, without a doubt children suffer. In order to stay in control of how life changes for your children, avoid using…
Read MoreCommunicating With Your Co-Parent
In the beginning stages you may have very strong feelings about the divorce and each other. When those feelings are overwhelming, avoid the temptation to share your perspective about the divorce or the other parent with your children. Remember children literally view themselves as half Mom and half Dad. Keep in mind your children deserves…
Read MoreWhat do I tell neighbors and friends?
Q – I live in a tight knit neighborhood. A few months ago my husband and I separated. I feel so awkward when I run into people we know. I can tell some of our neighbors and friends are curious about what has happened. Part of me just wants to get it all out and…
Read MoreI feel so overwhelmed, what can I do?
Q – I feel so overwhelmed and raw. Between taking care of the kids, juggling schedules, dealing with my Ex and working, I am exhausted mentally and emotionally. One day just rolls into the next. I know I need time for me but I feel so guilty taking time away from my kids. What can…
Read MoreGoing from we to me
As a divorce coach, I’ve seen lots of parents radically transform themselves when their relationships begin to unravel. While embracing change and using it as catalyst for redesigning your life, isn’t necessarily a bad thing. Hopping on the life makeover train without bothering to look at where you’re headed isn’t the answer either. Choosing to…
Read MoreShould we tell our preschooler we’re separating?
Q – “My husband and I are separating. Is it okay to hide our plans from our preschooler until we are ready to move, or should we let her know what’s going on?” A – If you already have a plan in place for separating, you need to bite the bullet and have a talk…
Read MoreRethinking parenting responsibilities after divorce
In an ideal world, as a couple with children you work together to juggle the day-to-day needs of your kids. Getting homework done, monitoring how long they surf the web, shuffling them to appointments and football practices, all the while making sure they’re loved, fed, bathed and relatively safe. That’s the stuff parenting is made…
Read MoreWill it hurt kids if we stay in one house until our finances improve?
Q – We’re beginning the divorce process. Right now we can’t afford two households so we’ve agreed to stay in our current home until our financial situation improves. As long as we are not arguing in front of the kids and act as we have been (there’s been very little affection between us), do you think…
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