I feel so overwhelmed, what can I do?

Q – I feel so overwhelmed and raw.  Between taking care of the kids, juggling schedules, dealing with my Ex and working, I am exhausted mentally and emotionally. One day just rolls into the next.  I know I need time for me but I feel so guilty taking time away from my kids. What can…

Going from we to me

As a divorce coach, I’ve seen lots of parents radically transform themselves when their relationships begin to unravel. While embracing change and using it as catalyst for redesigning your life, isn’t necessarily a bad thing. Hopping on the life makeover train without bothering to look at where you’re headed isn’t the answer either. Choosing to…

Should we tell our preschooler we’re separating?

Q – “My husband and I are separating. Is it okay to hide our plans from our preschooler until we are ready to move, or should we let her know what’s going on?” A – If you already have a plan in place for separating, you need to bite the bullet and have a talk…

Rethinking parenting responsibilities after divorce

In an ideal world, as a couple with children you work together to juggle the day-to-day needs of your kids.  Getting homework done, monitoring how long they surf the web, shuffling them to appointments and football practices, all the while making sure they’re loved, fed, bathed and relatively safe.  That’s the stuff parenting is made…

Will it hurt kids if we stay in one house until our finances improve?

Q – We’re beginning the divorce process.  Right now we can’t afford two households so we’ve agreed to stay in our current home until our financial situation improves. As long as we are not arguing in front of the kids and act as we have been (there’s been very little affection between us), do you think…