What every parent needs to know about helping kids cope with divorce

7 minute read When I coach parents about how to help their children cope with divorce, one of the first questions they often ask is “What do I say?” or “How can I talk about this?” And it’s not just that first big talk parents are losing sleep over.  There are an endless number of…

7 Ways You Might Be a KickAss CoParent and Not Even Know It.

    Since Gwyneth Paltrow and Chris Martin put “conscious uncoupling” into the limelight a few years ago, the face of coparenting has started to shift.  As a society, we seem to be embracing a new way forward and lots of coparents (some famous, some not) are leading the charge. While I am a huge…

Handling Holiday Hassles With An Ex Who Hates You

Heather felt that familiar sense of dread. December was always the worst. Although she and Brian had been divorced for over three years, the holidays continued to be complicated and miserable. Despite her best efforts to keep things friendly, there was zero flexibility. If Molly or Jack had holiday parties or special events, Brian would…

Easing Back and Forth Stress for Kids After Divorce

All the things your kids needed before the divorce, they will continue to need after you split up. How those needs get met, however, can be a real challenge when parents have different parenting styles, household structure, and rules. While it helps when parents can be on the same page about everyday routines, discipline, and…

Keeping Kids Out of the Middle When Parents Divorce

  Every day we tell our kids to stop.  Stop arguing, stop being loud, stop touching each other… you know the drill. Just stop. And we expect them to do it. When parent split up kids have their own list of “stops” for us too. Stop fighting, stop being angry, stop saying mean things about…