Keeping Kids Out of the Middle When Parents Divorce

Every day we tell our kids to stop.  Stop arguing, stop being loud, stop touching each other… you know the drill.  Just stop.  And we expect them to do it. When parent split up kids have their own list of “stops” for us too. Stop fighting, stop being angry, stop saying mean things about each…

6 Things Every Divorced Parent Should "Stop Doing"

Dear Kids, I’ve been thinking about how life has changed for you. There are so many things about our divorce that I wish I could fix or make less painful for you but I can’t.  I hate that. You may not know this but I spend a lot of time trying to figure out what…

Helping Kids of Divorce Manage Change

Nine months ago, Mathew’s parents told him that they were separating.  They said while they were figuring things out they would keep living in the same house. Yesterday Mathew’s mom, Jackie, announced she’s moving out tomorrow.  Mathew felt like somebody just punched him in the stomach. He thought his parents were trying to work things…

Gift Giving Tips for Divorced Parents

Molly used to love Christmas but now she can’t wait for it to be over.  Ever since her parents split, the holidays have turned into a gift-giving battleground.  Now during the holidays all her parents seem to care about is how they can outdo each other.  While getting nice gifts initially was pretty cool, it…

Truthbombs about parenting and divorce

As a divorce coach, I’ve never been thrilled about the negative images that tend to be associated with divorce. Instead of laboring over kids having a broken family, I encourage parents to frame divorce as a change in the family, not the end of it.  That doesn’t mean however, that I want my clients to see…