School age children: 6 to 9 years old

Now that children have begun to establish a sense of “who they are,” their focus turns to building self-esteem. The development of special skills or talents becomes one way children start to feel good about themselves. Keep in mind your child’s relationship with the other parent is still a key factor in how they view…

3 to 5 years old

During their pre-school years, children begin to develop ideas about who they are. The most important influences regarding that identity are Mom and Dad.  Additionally, relationships with parents also form the basis for future social skills and gender identity. Young children will often choose individual characteristics of parents as a way to define who they…

Toddlers (18 months to 2 Years)

As children move into toddlerhood, they begin to view themselves as separate from their parents. While exploring their newfound independence, these young children will also experience a wide range of emotions but lack the ability to understand or manage their feelings. Be mindful that your toddler will primarily express their feelings with actions especially when…

Infants

The primary developmental task for infants is to bond with Mom and Dad and gain a sense of security in the world around them. This occurs through regular consistent contact (for example, parents meeting their child’s needs through daily activities such as changing, feeding, holding, interacting etc.) When parents live apart, meeting this developmental need…

How to listen to your children

Divorce and separation brings many challenges and changes to children’s lives. During this time, one of the most important skills you can possess is being a good listener. Give children your full attention when they are talking to youThis means turning off the television or stop putting away the groceries. Sit down and make eye-to-eye…