Life After Divorce
Should kids be around my new boyfriend?
Q – I am in the process of getting a divorce after a 2 1/2 month separation. I have met someone else and we have been seeing each other for about a month. My Ex has a problem with it and says it’s too soon for the kids to be around someone I’m dating. I…
Read MoreRemarriage and Stepparenting
Second marriages can be very rewarding, however, they can also be very stressful. Second marriages carry more demands than first marriages and often require a greater degree of flexibility. Think child support, dealing with ex-spouses, juggling schedules, managing children out of two separate households. Issues to consider as a couple: Step-parenting pointers Don’t expect your…
Read MoreWhen and how do I introduce my kids to someone I am dating?
Q – I’m a single parent. When and how do I introduce my kids to someone I am dating? A – Typically a good rule of thumb is to wait until a relationship has moved beyond causal dating before including children. Keep in mind, dating is a process of getting to know each other. In…
Read MoreI want to move out of state. Should kids get to decide or do I make them move with me?
Q – I have been divorced for several years and have recently fallen in love with a man who lives out of state. I desperately want to move on with my life and take both children with me after the divorce. However, my co-parent and his entire family are here. A move would mean taking…
Read MoreStruggling as a new bonus mom (stepmom) who doesn’t have kids of my own
Q – I recently married a man who has children. I have never had kids of my own and am struggling with this new role. Even though I try really hard to be the best step parent I can be, his ex-wife criticizes everything I do. Several times I’ve turned myself inside out to get…
Read MoreI feel so overwhelmed, what can I do?
Q – I feel so overwhelmed and raw. Between taking care of the kids, juggling schedules, dealing with my Ex and working, I am exhausted mentally and emotionally. One day just rolls into the next. I know I need time for me but I feel so guilty taking time away from my kids. What can…
Read MoreGoing from we to me
As a divorce coach, I’ve seen lots of parents radically transform themselves when their relationships begin to unravel. While embracing change and using it as catalyst for redesigning your life, isn’t necessarily a bad thing. Hopping on the life makeover train without bothering to look at where you’re headed isn’t the answer either. Choosing to…
Read MoreFiancé feels frustrated with my kids behavior
Q – I am planning to re-marry this year. I have two sons ages 8 and 10. My fiancé is a really good man but he finds it stressful because of my kids behavior like making a mess or leaving their stuff out. He also feels like my co-parent doesn’t help the situation. When my…
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