Posts Tagged ‘children and divorce’
One Mindset Shift That Could Change How Divorce Affects Your Children
Over the past week, how many emails have you gotten so far that read something like this…”Welcome to 2020! A brand-new year and a brand-new decade,” or “OMG, it’s 2020!!! Happy Freaking New Year!! If your inbox is anything like mine, you’ve probably gotten quite a few of these. TBH, I’m not feeling it. I…
Read MoreHelping children of divorce become resilient
HELPING CHILDREN LEARN HOW TO COPE DOESN’T HAPPEN WHEN WE TRY TO FIX THEIR PROBLEMS. And yet, parents do it all the time. I personally happen to be a frequent offender in this department. Even though I teach my clients about this parenting strategy all the time, it’s amazing how often I still catch myself…
Read MoreHow Co-Parents Dealing with Divorce or Separation Can Stop Being Miserable During the Holidays
“Pain in life is inevitable. Suffering is optional… even during the holidays.” A couple of years ago, here at the McGhee household, we were having a pretty dismal December… TBH, the whole Christmas thing was looking awfully darn bleak. See… around that time, I was working away on a BRAND NEW project and was deep…
Read More6 Things Every Divorced Parent Should "Stop Doing"
Dear Kids, I’ve been thinking about how life has changed for you. There are so many things about our divorce that I wish I could fix or make less painful for you but I can’t. I hate that. You may not know this but I spend a lot of time trying to figure out what…
Read MoreGift Giving Tips for Divorced Parents
Molly used to love Christmas but now she can’t wait for it to be over. Ever since her parents split, the holidays have turned into a gift-giving battleground. Now during the holidays all her parents seem to care about is how they can outdo each other. While getting nice gifts initially was pretty cool, it…
Read More8 Things Adult Children of Divorce Desperately Want You to Know
Dear parents with older children, We realize how easy it might be to assume that your choice to divorce won’t really affect us. After all, we’re older now, and those days of hands-on parenting are long gone. As young adults, you may think we can handle more or rationalize your situation… maybe even put ourselves…
Read MoreAdjustment Factors for Children of Divorce
There are many factors, which affect how children of divorce are able to cope. Some of those factors we can influence through our own actions, others we may have no control over. Researchers have estimated that the period of adjustment for families can range anywhere from one to three years, and sometimes even as long…
Read MoreGuidelines for Divorced Parents to Live by
The Do’s Do love your children as much as possible.Show them your love through words and actions. Do tell your children divorce is not their fault.Keep in mind, they’ll need to hear it more than once. Do reassure your children that they will be safe.Let your kids know that both parents will continue to provide…
Read MoreMy Ex is a slob and it’s driving me crazy
COPARENTING AFTER DIVORCE AND DEALING WITH DIFFERENCES INVOLVES KNOWING WHEN TO HOLD FIRM AND WHEN TO STOP SWEATING THE SMALL STUFF. If you search the web looking for information on coparenting, chances are you’ll find quite a bit of chatter about how to manage big-ticket items. How do you break the news to your kids?…
Read MoreWill you make difference for kids of divorce?
It’s not often that I ask for help but this is so incredibly important that I felt moved to reach out in a very big way. Just about anyone who has ever met me knows I am absolutely passionate about helping separated and divorced parents raise happy, confident and successful kids. Over the years,…
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