Posts Tagged ‘divorce help’
Helping children of divorce become resilient
HELPING CHILDREN LEARN HOW TO COPE DOESN’T HAPPEN WHEN WE TRY TO FIX THEIR PROBLEMS. And yet, parents do it all the time. I personally happen to be a frequent offender in this department. Even though I teach my clients about this parenting strategy all the time, it’s amazing how often I still catch myself…
Read MoreKeeping Kids Out of the Middle When Parents Divorce
Every day we tell our kids to stop. Stop arguing, stop being loud, stop touching each other… you know the drill. Just stop. And we expect them to do it. When parent split up kids have their own list of “stops” for us too. Stop fighting, stop being angry, stop saying mean things about each…
Read MoreHelping Kids of Divorce Manage Change
Nine months ago, Mathew’s parents told him that they were separating. They said while they were figuring things out they would keep living in the same house. Yesterday Mathew’s mom, Jackie, announced she’s moving out tomorrow. Mathew felt like somebody just punched him in the stomach. He thought his parents were trying to work things…
Read MoreTruthbombs about coparenting and divorce
As a divorce coach, I’ve never been thrilled about the negative images that tend to be associated with divorce. Instead of laboring over kids having a broken family, I encourage parents to frame divorce as a change in the family, not the end of it. That doesn’t mean, however, that I want my clients to see…
Read MoreHow to Avoid a Custody Battle After Divorce
Special thanks to Canterbury Law Group Scottsdale for this sponsored post. Divorce is a messy affair. It’s even messier when you have children. One of the reasons that this occurs is because it’s difficult to think about how to share time with your children. While it seems reasonable to one parent to share care 50/50,…
Read MoreDitching the Dread: Sorting out Summer Schedules After Divorce
It’s official! The end of another school year is in sight. As of today, we’re 14 days away and counting. My youngest daughter is so ready to be done with the whole school thing. For her, that last day can’t get here fast enough. Me? Uhhhmmm not so much…I’m somewhere in between YES!! and total…
Read MoreTaking Care of You After Divorce
Divorce feels like a crisis. It is a traumatic, crazy and an uncertain time for you and your children. What do most people do when they are in crisis? Well, they survive by living from moment to moment and finding some way to keep going until things get better or at the very least, tolerable.Until…
Read MoreMy co-parent is a slob and it’s driving me crazy
COPARENTING AFTER DIVORCE AND DEALING WITH DIFFERENCES INVOLVES KNOWING WHEN TO HOLD FIRM AND WHEN TO STOP SWEATING THE SMALL STUFF. If you search the web looking for information on coparenting, chances are you’ll find quite a bit of chatter about how to manage big-ticket items. How do you break the news to your kids?…
Read MoreLittle things matter: supporting the value of family after divorce
Supporting the value of family after divorce. “It’s not always the big things we do for our children that make the most difference. Sometimes it’s the subtle things we do over time that reflect integrity in our children’s eyes.” My husband is an amazing Dad. So when Father’s Day rolls around I usually get just…
Read MoreWhat Co-Parents Can Do When Kids Say They Want To Live With Their Other Parent.
Imagine. Life is just humming right along, that is…until 13-year-old Abigail asks to stay out until midnight. It seems that some of her friends have planned to hang out at a local movie theatre. According to her, everybody will be there, and leaving before midnight would totally make her look like a major loser. You,…
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