Posts Tagged ‘separation’
How To Deal With A Difficult Co-Parent Dedicated To Divorce Drama
IS YOUR CO-PARENT NASTY ONE DAY AND NICE THE NEXT? Sara was hanging on by a thread. Coparenting with her Ex, Anthony, was incredibly draining, unpredictable and filled with drama. One day he would be rude and standoffish in front of the boys. Then the very next day, he’d act like nothing ever happened and…
Read MoreWhat every parent needs to know about helping kids cope with divorce
Helping kids cope with divorce. 7 minute read When I coach parents about how to help their children cope with divorce, one of the first questions they often ask is “What do I say?” or “How can I talk about this?” And it’s not just that first big talk parents are losing sleepover. There are…
Read MoreTruthbombs about coparenting and divorce
As a divorce coach, I’ve never been thrilled about the negative images that tend to be associated with divorce. Instead of laboring over kids having a broken family, I encourage parents to frame divorce as a change in the family, not the end of it. That doesn’t mean, however, that I want my clients to see…
Read MoreDitching the Dread: Sorting out Summer Schedules After Divorce
It’s official! The end of another school year is in sight. As of today, we’re 14 days away and counting. My youngest daughter is so ready to be done with the whole school thing. For her, that last day can’t get here fast enough. Me? Uhhhmmm not so much…I’m somewhere in between YES!! and total…
Read More7 Tips for Keeping it Together at Work When Your Marriage is Falling Apart
We’ve all heard the sage advice when things aren’t going your way at work, “Don’t take it home with you.” However, what do you when the stresses and worries of your home life follow you to work each day? While a “leave it at the door” attitude sounds good in theory, creating that kind of…
Read MoreParenting With Your Co-Parent
One of the most damaging aspects of divorce consistently emphasized by researchers, mental health professionals and family courts conflict between parents. When children are exposed to heated debates, badmouthing, insults and high conflict situations, they suffer tremendously. Kids literally view themselves as half mom and half dad. When they hear jabs, insults or negative comments…
Read MoreTaking Care of You After Divorce
Divorce feels like a crisis. It is a traumatic, crazy and an uncertain time for you and your children. What do most people do when they are in crisis? Well, they survive by living from moment to moment and finding some way to keep going until things get better or at the very least, tolerable.Until…
Read MoreTips for talking to kids about divorce
Whether it’s the first heartbreak, a scraped knee or losing a beloved pet watching your children hurt is undeniably harder than hard. When life presents a potentially unpleasant or painful situation, our gut tells us to protect and shield our kids, even if it means being a little less than honest or presenting a watered…
Read MoreWhat Co-Parents Can Do When Kids Say They Want To Live With Their Other Parent.
Imagine. Life is just humming right along, that is…until 13-year-old Abigail asks to stay out until midnight. It seems that some of her friends have planned to hang out at a local movie theatre. According to her, everybody will be there, and leaving before midnight would totally make her look like a major loser. You,…
Read MoreNight Night, Sleep Tight: Getting your children to sleep in their own beds after divorce
You’re dead tired, it’s been a long day and your little (or perhaps not so little) darling just can’t sleep. The answer? Simple. Just pull back the covers and let them crawl in bed with you. After all, the divorce has been so hard and they’ve been through so much already. Surely one or two nights…
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