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Helping children of divorce become resilient
HELPING CHILDREN LEARN HOW TO COPE DOESN’T HAPPEN WHEN WE TRY TO FIX THEIR PROBLEMS. And yet, parents do it all the time. I personally happen to be a frequent offender in this department. Even though I teach my clients about this parenting strategy all the time, it’s amazing how often I still catch myself…
Read MoreWhy co-parents should stop using the words visit, visitation, and custody.
ARE YOU GUILTY OF USING THIS FIVE-LETTER WORD WITH YOUR KIDS? Ever have a word that as makes you cringe every single time you hear it? Yeah, me too. (Actually, TBH, I have several but let’s not go there…) Recently during one of my coaching calls, a divorced co-parent I was working with casually dropped…
Read More6 Things Every Divorced Parent Should "Stop Doing"
Dear Kids, I’ve been thinking about how life has changed for you. There are so many things about our divorce that I wish I could fix or make less painful for you but I can’t. I hate that. You may not know this but I spend a lot of time trying to figure out what…
Read MoreGift Giving Tips for Divorced Parents
Molly used to love Christmas but now she can’t wait for it to be over. Ever since her parents split, the holidays have turned into a gift-giving battleground. Now during the holidays all her parents seem to care about is how they can outdo each other. While getting nice gifts initially was pretty cool, it…
Read MoreTruthbombs about coparenting and divorce
As a divorce coach, I’ve never been thrilled about the negative images that tend to be associated with divorce. Instead of laboring over kids having a broken family, I encourage parents to frame divorce as a change in the family, not the end of it. That doesn’t mean, however, that I want my clients to see…
Read MoreDitching the Dread: Sorting out Summer Schedules After Divorce
It’s official! The end of another school year is in sight. As of today, we’re 14 days away and counting. My youngest daughter is so ready to be done with the whole school thing. For her, that last day can’t get here fast enough. Me? Uhhhmmm not so much…I’m somewhere in between YES!! and total…
Read More8 Things Adult Children of Divorce Desperately Want You to Know
Dear parents with older children, We realize how easy it might be to assume that your choice to divorce won’t really affect us. After all, we’re older now, and those days of hands-on parenting are long gone. As young adults, you may think we can handle more or rationalize your situation… maybe even put ourselves…
Read More6 Things Children of Divorce Want From Their Parents This Holiday Season
Dear Mom and Dad, We know this divorce stuff isn’t easy and that you’re doing the best you can. When the holidays hit, life gets a little stressful for us. Here are a couple of things we’d like you to keep in mind this holiday season that would really help us out. Thank you. With…
Read More7 Tips for Keeping it Together at Work When Your Marriage is Falling Apart
We’ve all heard the sage advice when things aren’t going your way at work, “Don’t take it home with you.” However, what do you when the stresses and worries of your home life follow you to work each day? While a “leave it at the door” attitude sounds good in theory, creating that kind of…
Read MoreThe Conflict Connection: Figuring Out What Makes Your Difficult Co-parent Tick
Joe was at his wits end. Ever since his divorce he tried to do everything he could think of to get along with his co-parent, Maria. It seemed like no matter how hard he tried nothing worked. While they would go through periods where things were fine, it usually didn’t last for long. Eventually Maria…
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