Putting Children First
One Mindset Shift That Could Change How Divorce Affects Your Children
Over the past week, how many emails have you gotten so far that read something like this…”Welcome to 2020! A brand-new year and a brand-new decade,” or “OMG, it’s 2020!!! Happy Freaking New Year!! If your inbox is anything like mine, you’ve probably gotten quite a few of these. TBH, I’m not feeling it. I…
Read MoreOne Coparenting Mistake You Should Avoid This Holiday Season
HANDLING HOLIDAYS AFTER DIVORCE AS COPARENTS CAN BE TRICKY. The holidays are here. Although it’s meant to be a warm and fuzzy time of year when goodwill prevails, sadly for many coparents, the reason for the season transforms into a vicious game of “one-upping.” If “one-upping” isn’t part of your day to day vocabulary, it…
Read MoreStarting a New School Year – Tips for Coparenting After a Divorce.
Starting a New School Year – Tips for Coparenting After a Divorce. Anybody else feeling a little frazzled over the start of a new school? Yeah, me too. The start of a new school year always feels a little bittersweet. Part of me is super pumped about having a predictable routine again (and getting my…
Read MoreWhy co-parents should stop using the words visit, visitation, and custody.
ARE YOU GUILTY OF USING THIS FIVE-LETTER WORD WITH YOUR KIDS? Ever have a word that as makes you cringe every single time you hear it? Yeah, me too. (Actually, TBH, I have several but let’s not go there…) Recently during one of my coaching calls, a divorced co-parent I was working with casually dropped…
Read MoreEasing Back and Forth Stress for Kids After Divorce
All the things your kids needed before the divorce, they will continue to need after you split up. How those needs get met, however, can be a real challenge when parents have different parenting styles, household structure, and rules. While it helps when parents can be on the same page about everyday routines, discipline, and…
Read MoreKeeping Kids Out of the Middle When Parents Divorce
Every day we tell our kids to stop. Stop arguing, stop being loud, stop touching each other… you know the drill. Just stop. And we expect them to do it. When parent split up kids have their own list of “stops” for us too. Stop fighting, stop being angry, stop saying mean things about each…
Read More8 Things Adult Children of Divorce Desperately Want You to Know
Dear parents with older children, We realize how easy it might be to assume that your choice to divorce won’t really affect us. After all, we’re older now, and those days of hands-on parenting are long gone. As young adults, you may think we can handle more or rationalize your situation… maybe even put ourselves…
Read MoreLittle things matter: supporting the value of family after divorce
Supporting the value of family after divorce. “It’s not always the big things we do for our children that make the most difference. Sometimes it’s the subtle things we do over time that reflect integrity in our children’s eyes.” My husband is an amazing Dad. So when Father’s Day rolls around I usually get just…
Read MorePlanning for Seasonal Success: Holiday Tips for Parenting Apart
Just for grins, I decided to Google “holiday stress.” While I expected my return would be substantial, I have to admit I was a little taken aback when Google handed me about 428,000,000 results. Yikes! Without a doubt, holidays present challenges for lots of families. For those parenting out of two households, seasonal festivities often…
Read MoreNight Night, Sleep Tight: Getting your children to sleep in their own beds after divorce
You’re dead tired, it’s been a long day and your little (or perhaps not so little) darling just can’t sleep. The answer? Simple. Just pull back the covers and let them crawl in bed with you. After all, the divorce has been so hard and they’ve been through so much already. Surely one or two nights…
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