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Finding common ground: Putting your children first
Put your children first. “Although our relationship has changed, our children’s needs have not. How will we be successful parents?” Children need: What can you do? Want to connect with other parents? Consider joining our community on Instagram, LinkedIn and Facebook.
Read MoreHow can I get my child to sleep in her own bed?
Q – “Since the split my daughter crawls into my bed at night. What started out as a started out as a one time thing has now become an every night affair. How can I get my child to sleep in her own bed?” A – When parents split up life changes tremendously for kids.…
Read MoreRegression: My child was potty trained now she’s wetting again. Is is because of the divorce?
Q – “I’m recently divorced. Before the break up my child was potty trained now she is wetting again. Is it because of the divorce? What do I do? A – When children get stressed out and overwhelmed it’s not uncommon for them to take steps backwards developmentally. Maybe you just got Johnny to sleep…
Read MoreDon’t my kids have the right to know the truth?
Sometimes due to our own hurt and pain, you or the other parent may feel strongly that children need to hear the truth. In some families, one parent may be very committed to assigning blame for the divorce. Holding one parent exclusively responsible for the divorce often creates a confusing and difficult situation for children.…
Read MoreMy Kids Keep Asking “Why?” What Should I Tell Them?
Understand that it will take time for your children to come to grips with the idea that the family is changing. Accepting divorce is a process. Gradually different questions, issues and thoughts about the divorce will come up for your children and as they do, it’s only natural for them to question why. Asking “why?”…
Read MoreWhat else do my kids need to hear?
“Besides telling them we are getting a divorce what else do my kids need to hear?” Key messages your kids need to hear from Mom and Dad. Use the examples below as a guide to help you come up with what to say to kids about why you are getting a divorce. Kids will also…
Read MoreWe have children that are different ages; do we tell them together or individually?
Nobody knows your children better than you. Use your best judgment when it comes to deciding whether you should talk with kids separately or all together. Important factors to weigh out are: Take into consideration that children in the same family often manage their feelings about divorce in very different ways. Some children may react…
Read MoreMy Child Misses My Co-parent At Bedtime. What Can I Do?
During the day my child seems happy and fine. However, as soon as bedtime hits he often becomes very sad and seems to really miss my co-parent. What can I do? Although it may seem a little odd that your child appears to not have a care in the world and then become completely overwhelmed…
Read MoreShould we tell the children together?
Ideally, it’s best if both parents can talk with children together. However, this is only recommended if you and the other parent are able to responsibly manage both your feelings and your opinions about the divorce. In some divorce situations, parents may not agree about why things didn’t work out or be in different stages…
Read MoreFirst conversation about divorce: What should you say to your children?
For initial first conversations, don’t overwhelm your children with information; keep the discussion straightforward and age-appropriate. Focus on addressing the fact that you are separating or getting a divorce and how life will change for now. Here are some guidelines for you to consider regarding your first conversation with children. Think through how you will…
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