Divorce
Keeping Kids Out of the Middle When Parents Divorce
Every day we tell our kids to stop. Stop arguing, stop being loud, stop touching each other… you know the drill. Just stop. And we expect them to do it. When parent split up kids have their own list of “stops” for us too. Stop fighting, stop being angry, stop saying mean things about each…
Read More6 Things Every Divorced Parent Should "Stop Doing"
Dear Kids, I’ve been thinking about how life has changed for you. There are so many things about our divorce that I wish I could fix or make less painful for you but I can’t. I hate that. You may not know this but I spend a lot of time trying to figure out what…
Read MoreHelping Kids of Divorce Manage Change
Nine months ago, Mathew’s parents told him that they were separating. They said while they were figuring things out they would keep living in the same house. Yesterday Mathew’s mom, Jackie, announced she’s moving out tomorrow. Mathew felt like somebody just punched him in the stomach. He thought his parents were trying to work things…
Read MoreGift Giving Tips for Divorced Parents
Molly used to love Christmas but now she can’t wait for it to be over. Ever since her parents split, the holidays have turned into a gift-giving battleground. Now during the holidays all her parents seem to care about is how they can outdo each other. While getting nice gifts initially was pretty cool, it…
Read MoreTruthbombs about coparenting and divorce
As a divorce coach, I’ve never been thrilled about the negative images that tend to be associated with divorce. Instead of laboring over kids having a broken family, I encourage parents to frame divorce as a change in the family, not the end of it. That doesn’t mean, however, that I want my clients to see…
Read MoreFive Things Every Kid Needs to Know When Parents Divorce
1. You don’t have to handle it all on your own. Although it may feel like the last thing in the world you want to do, talking to someone you trust really does help. If you don’t feel like you can talk to your Mom or your Dad, find someone safe who will listen to…
Read MoreHow to Avoid a Custody Battle After Divorce
Special thanks to Canterbury Law Group Scottsdale for this sponsored post. Divorce is a messy affair. It’s even messier when you have children. One of the reasons that this occurs is because it’s difficult to think about how to share time with your children. While it seems reasonable to one parent to share care 50/50,…
Read MoreDitching the Dread: Sorting out Summer Schedules After Divorce
It’s official! The end of another school year is in sight. As of today, we’re 14 days away and counting. My youngest daughter is so ready to be done with the whole school thing. For her, that last day can’t get here fast enough. Me? Uhhhmmm not so much…I’m somewhere in between YES!! and total…
Read MoreCoparenting and Discipline Handovers: Who Gets To Call The Shots?
Kids act up. Testing limits is just part of the package. Deciding what to do about your child’s momentary lapses in judgment is one of the challenges of being a parent. It gets even harder when you’ve laid down the law only to realize it’s Friday afternoon and it’s Dad’s weekend. While it would be…
Read More6 Things Children of Divorce Want From Their Parents This Holiday Season
Dear Mom and Dad, We know this divorce stuff isn’t easy and that you’re doing the best you can. When the holidays hit, life gets a little stressful for us. Here are a couple of things we’d like you to keep in mind this holiday season that would really help us out. Thank you.With love,…
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