Positive Parenting
Starting a New School Year – Tips for Coparenting After a Divorce.
Starting a New School Year – Tips for Coparenting After a Divorce. Anybody else feeling a little frazzled over the start of a new school? Yeah, me too. The start of a new school year always feels a little bittersweet. Part of me is super pumped about having a predictable routine again (and getting my…
Read MoreHelping children of divorce become resilient
HELPING CHILDREN LEARN HOW TO COPE DOESN’T HAPPEN WHEN WE TRY TO FIX THEIR PROBLEMS. And yet, parents do it all the time. I personally happen to be a frequent offender in this department. Even though I teach my clients about this parenting strategy all the time, it’s amazing how often I still catch myself…
Read MoreWhy co-parents should stop using the words visit, visitation, and custody.
ARE YOU GUILTY OF USING THIS FIVE-LETTER WORD WITH YOUR KIDS? Ever have a word that as makes you cringe every single time you hear it? Yeah, me too. (Actually, TBH, I have several but let’s not go there…) Recently during one of my coaching calls, a divorced co-parent I was working with casually dropped…
Read MoreWhat every parent needs to know about helping kids cope with divorce
Helping kids cope with divorce. 7 minute read When I coach parents about how to help their children cope with divorce, one of the first questions they often ask is “What do I say?” or “How can I talk about this?” And it’s not just that first big talk parents are losing sleepover. There are…
Read More7 Ways You Might Be a KickAss Co-Parent and Not Even Know It.
Since Gwyneth Paltrow and Chris Martin put “conscious uncoupling” into the limelight a few years ago, the face of coparenting has started to shift. As a society, we seem to be embracing a new way forward and lots of coparents (some famous, some not) are leading the charge. While I am a huge fan of…
Read MoreEasing Back and Forth Stress for Kids After Divorce
All the things your kids needed before the divorce, they will continue to need after you split up. How those needs get met, however, can be a real challenge when parents have different parenting styles, household structure, and rules. While it helps when parents can be on the same page about everyday routines, discipline, and…
Read More6 Things Every Divorced Parent Should "Stop Doing"
Dear Kids, I’ve been thinking about how life has changed for you. There are so many things about our divorce that I wish I could fix or make less painful for you but I can’t. I hate that. You may not know this but I spend a lot of time trying to figure out what…
Read MoreLittle things matter: supporting the value of family after divorce
Supporting the value of family after divorce. “It’s not always the big things we do for our children that make the most difference. Sometimes it’s the subtle things we do over time that reflect integrity in our children’s eyes.” My husband is an amazing Dad. So when Father’s Day rolls around I usually get just…
Read MoreMiddle Ground – Handling Discipline Differences Between Two Households
When discipline differences between divorced parents rear their ugly head, even the most amicable co-parents can begin to feel edgy and frustrated. Navigating issues such as what’s an appropriate bedtime for 5-year-old Rebecca, to at what age should Charlie get a cell phone can easily put parents at odds with one another. As a divorce…
Read MorePARENTING APART TIP: Making time to take time
There’s no doubt that the daily grind can seriously impact the quality of our relationship with kids. Whether you are rushing to get to school on time, hassling over homework or trying to get everyone into bed, it’s easy to slip into a pattern of being a full-time taskmaster. Pair that with your own list…
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