Posts Tagged ‘coparenting’
Easing Back and Forth Stress for Kids After Divorce
All the things your kids needed before the divorce, they will continue to need after you split up. How those needs get met, however, can be a real challenge when parents have different parenting styles, household structure, and rules. While it helps when parents can be on the same page about everyday routines, discipline, and…
Read MoreKeeping Kids Out of the Middle When Parents Divorce
Every day we tell our kids to stop. Stop arguing, stop being loud, stop touching each other… you know the drill. Just stop. And we expect them to do it. When parent split up kids have their own list of “stops” for us too. Stop fighting, stop being angry, stop saying mean things about each…
Read More6 Things Every Divorced Parent Should "Stop Doing"
Dear Kids, I’ve been thinking about how life has changed for you. There are so many things about our divorce that I wish I could fix or make less painful for you but I can’t. I hate that. You may not know this but I spend a lot of time trying to figure out what…
Read MoreGift Giving Tips for Divorced Parents
Molly used to love Christmas but now she can’t wait for it to be over. Ever since her parents split, the holidays have turned into a gift-giving battleground. Now during the holidays all her parents seem to care about is how they can outdo each other. While getting nice gifts initially was pretty cool, it…
Read MoreTruthbombs about coparenting and divorce
As a divorce coach, I’ve never been thrilled about the negative images that tend to be associated with divorce. Instead of laboring over kids having a broken family, I encourage parents to frame divorce as a change in the family, not the end of it. That doesn’t mean, however, that I want my clients to see…
Read MoreFive Things Every Kid Needs to Know When Parents Divorce
1. You don’t have to handle it all on your own. Although it may feel like the last thing in the world you want to do, talking to someone you trust really does help. If you don’t feel like you can talk to your Mom or your Dad, find someone safe who will listen to…
Read MoreCoparenting and Discipline Handovers: Who Gets To Call The Shots?
Kids act up. Testing limits is just part of the package. Deciding what to do about your child’s momentary lapses in judgment is one of the challenges of being a parent. It gets even harder when you’ve laid down the law only to realize it’s Friday afternoon and it’s Dad’s weekend. While it would be…
Read More6 Things Children of Divorce Want From Their Parents This Holiday Season
Dear Mom and Dad, We know this divorce stuff isn’t easy and that you’re doing the best you can. When the holidays hit, life gets a little stressful for us. Here are a couple of things we’d like you to keep in mind this holiday season that would really help us out. Thank you. With…
Read MoreTips for Parenting Out of Two Homes
Encourage a two home concept.Children should feel they have a home with both Mom and Dad regardless of how much time is spent with either parent. Be supportive of both homes.Avoid judging or criticizing your child’s home with the other parent. Comparing the two homes or trying to find fault with one home only leaves…
Read MoreParenting With Your Co-Parent
One of the most damaging aspects of divorce consistently emphasized by researchers, mental health professionals and family courts conflict between parents. When children are exposed to heated debates, badmouthing, insults and high conflict situations, they suffer tremendously. Kids literally view themselves as half mom and half dad. When they hear jabs, insults or negative comments…
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